Oct 9, 2018


“There’s a line in the picture where he (Johnny – The Wild One) snarls, ‘Nobody tells me what to do.’ That’s exactly how I’ve felt all my life.”
Marlon Brando

I’m kind of half kidding about the not liking you part. And … people are too wrapped up in their own stuff to give much of a shit about whether you are taking the world by storm or falling apart at the seems.

The fastest way to not get what you want in this industry is to try and be like everybody else. It’s a con. Now I’m not attempting to alienate people or to make it uncomfortable for myself out of some bizarre shock tactic. Life is too short for that.

Life is also way to short for attempting to get other people to like you. The assumption being made here is born out of speaking with hundreds of people who have participated on my workshop.

We all profess to want to be original and to be different from everybody else. If that’s the case why do we spend so much of our time attempting to be like this person or that person and why do we spend so much time attempting to get other people to like our work.

Truly being yourself takes being daring simply because our natural tendency is to want others to acknowledge that we are doing great.

I’ll let you into a little secret … to stand out from the crowd is scary. It isn’t comfortable simply because the degree to which you are yourself is the degree to which you have no reference points.

Most of the ideas we have we’re going to think … this is not a good idea. People will think its stupid. It’s those very  ideas that need nurturing guys.

Like this article is not necessarily great idea. It will annoy some people. And … so.

Like what is it you want? What do you want really? Seeing what others post on their social media, and attempting to ‘get that’. Let me tell you … that isn’t what you want. Most of what is posted anyway is 1% of the whole. It’s the icing on a mostly uninspired cake. We only show on social media what we want people to see.

I for one do not post 99% of my work simply because I don’t want people throwing up. I spare them consistently on a daily basis.

So … kids out of the room … lets ask ourselves some ‘great questions.’.

A great question to ask is … what is it I actually want? And follow that question thru to a conclusion? All of those things that I think I want … do I actually want them? Or rather what will they give me when I get them?

It’s a powerful question that if looked into and asked correctly will deliver a very powerful answer indeed.

I’ll leave you with that.

(the next Dare workshop takes place at the Dolls House in Islington on the 5-6 November 2018)